Topical Commentary
• Sisyphus 55 — love without attachment
“(Dependency: Depending on another for our psychological well-being; securing our own self-image through another) ← cutting ourselves off from being able to experience true love (vulnerability)
~ See your partner as a human being with their own agency […] you need to see people for their own potentialities and your own potentialities rather than the images you have of them.
~ A significant faith that through recognizing, trusting, and nurturing you and your partner’s potentialities, love will flourish (education of and loyalty to your/each other’s boundaries).
~ You must be vulnerable to the things you feared; that things might not last […] all you can do is have some humility and faith that the learning process itself, which is reciprocal, will bring love to both.
(passion comes through learning — an intense curiosity we have for the other is where love emerges)”.
Songs (歌 / 노래)
[Mitski] My Love Mine All Mine
[alayna] If You Want My Love
[Mark Luna and Julie Stevens] If You Love Me For Me
[Barbie] Constant As The Stars Above
[Hikaru Utada 宇多田ヒカル] Chikai 誓い —
“Let’s just wear rings of the same color (let’s just choose rings the color of the dawn) …
Promises are for making others happy (what I’m saying now doesn’t come second-hand)”.
[TOMORROW X TOGETHER 투모로우바이투게더] Hydrangea Love 紫陽花のような恋 —
“Even if I’m not the way you want me to be, even if you’re not the way I want you to be …
(even if you’re not the way you want yourself to be, even if I’m not the way I want myself to be — I couldn’t have met you if it weren’t for the way I am right now) …
I am in love with the ‘you’ that I put together from these bits; a hydrangea-like love, every little thing turns into you”.
Watch (看 / 보다)
[WARNING: VIEWER’S DISCRETION IS ADVISED (mature audience only)]
• [HIKARI 美津代 宮崎] 37 Seconds セカンズ — trailer (to find beauty in the way the other views/perceives the world)
Readings (读的 / 읽다)
• [Miho Obana 小花 美穂] Kodocha / Kodomo no Omocha こどものおもちゃ — Chap. 40 — “No matter what kind of painful things might happen in the future, don’t run from them. Take them as they come, because I’ll be there with you”.
• [Oreco Tachibana 橘オレコ] Firefly Wedding たちばな オレコ — Chap. 42
~ “A strong and resolute person … letting myself hurt and sympathize over his past is a discourtesy.
~ I want you to be happy even when I’m not here (I also want to make you happy).
~ You don’t need to be so scared over my words. I’ll tell you exactly what I’m feeling like this from now on […] but I want you to tell me what you want too. I’m not going to leave you, so don’t be scared. The marriage I want is not one that binds us, but one where we support and help each other; so please work together with me”.
(I want to).